7: The Switcheroo Game
A simple exercise for many purposes
My sweetpea recently told me that my writings are not necessarily Domination/submission strategies, but "just sex games." This compliment warmed my heart, for my very favorite kind of domination is that which delights her, unbalances her, makes her laugh and startle and stare at me in turn, hanging on my every word with her bright and insistent black eyes, waiting with bated breath for the next command or action to intrude upon her person.
That is, for her, our sex is intrinsically dominant/submissive. If she is not following orders and feeling like a toy and striving to please me, it isn't completely sex. She is steeped in it, attuned to it, plugged into it, trained to it. She is the proverbial fish who does not know she is wet.
Still, I asked her indulgently: Who makes up the games? Who gives the instructions, makes the lists, supplies the cues and prompts, finds a way to turn psychology and desire into meaningful, surprising physical exchanges? She just gave me that expectant happy look of "When will we do the next one?"
Here's a little game that would be well suited to her feeling in a particularly submissive mood, such as wanting to to have her collar put on but needing to earn the privilege. Tell her to remove her panties, and fold and present them to you as should be regular practice. Have her then assume an inferior position, that is, kneeling on the floor as you sit in on your hard chair, on a sofa, or on your bed. Tell her to hold up her index or middle finger for you. You choose the finger. It will always be tempting to let her choose, in the name of equity and fair play, but that isn't what we're doing here, remember, and more importantly it is not what she wants. She must be gotten used to making none of her own choices, no matter how tiny or inconsequential. Make all her choices and relish it. She will too.
When she is holding up the finger tell her to widen the stance of her knees on the floor as well. Instruct her now to insert her finger in your mouth. While maintaining deep and steady eye contact, suck her finger as if it is her little tiny dick. Suck it fairly strenuously. She needs to feel your tongue, your teeth, your palate, your strength. She should feel a bit like you might suck it right down your gullet and bite it off.
Keep this up for about a minute, then slowly and meaningfully release her from your mouth, making sure to leave her finger nice and wet. It should be glistening and maybe even with a string of saliva. Do not break the eye contact.
Direct her now to take that finger and insert it into her vagina. Use that word. Clinical words have a sting that is intense and appropriate in this context. Specify that she needs to put it as far up into her vagina as possible, and make sure she does. Say, "farther," and "keep going," and "all the way in." Tell her to try and touch her cervix with her fingertip.
When you are satisfied that she is fulfilling your request, tell her to take the corresponding finger of her other hand and now put that one into your mouth.
The goal here is that both of her hands are now engaged in your activity, and she is feeling her insides with her one finger and your insides with the other. Suck her finger hard as before. Break the suction to tell her to concentrate on how warm and wet and tight you both feel, on each of her fingers (you'll just have to talk around her finger -- take your time and don't be awkward about it). Tell her to close her eyes and just feel. Ask her how each of her fingers feels different. Wait a bit. Ask her how each of her fingers feels the same.
After a good longish interval of 60 to 90 seconds, speak these words:
"Now I'm going to count to ten, and then you're going to do as I tell you." ("Do what the fuck I tell you" is also powerful, and will build tension.)
As you count, with the presence of her finger in your mouth making it sound kind of cute and humorous, she will be eagerly wondering and anticipating and counting the seconds. After reaching ten, open your lips and let her withdraw. Tell her:
"Now: Switch fingers."
The reaction should be interesting. She will no doubt be more preoccupied that her cunt-finger will now be going into your mouth. She may hesitate, at which you should repeat your demand more insistently. Or she may not, in which case enjoy the expression in her eyes.
Suck her cunt finger. Taste the tanginess. This is a good time for some reassurance, around the new finger in your mouth: "When I taste your vagina I feel like it was created just for me." "Who was it created for?" "To whom does your vagina belong?" Make her say it. Make her say it multiple times, calling you Sir. Ask her if she likes doing this, and why or why not. Bear in mind you are not asking her permission to continue, but only whether she likes it or not. Because it's going to continue regardless. If she says she is not enjoying it, hold your ground. You are enjoying it, and what else matters? But I don't think that's the response you will get.
After another interval, switch again. Then again. After a few switches back and forth, it is possible to take her cunt-finger and direct it this time to her own mouth, instead of yours. Of course you can also insert your finger into her mouth, and into her vagina and back again, while sucking hers. Repeat and switch and change until the point has been made, and enjoy the contrasting sensations. Then stop for some holding and kissing and aftercare, with her still on her knees. Direct her to tell how this made her feel, if she understands how important and delicious her vagina is, or, more accurately, your vagina.
To return to the opening of this section, yes, this is perhaps "just a sex game." But it is you as the dominant who is running things, pushing her boundaries, keeping her on the edge of uncertainty, which is exactly where both of you want her to be.